Have you ever felt, Oh! Why am I worthless? Have you ever felt, oh! I am a "nobody". You feel, "Why are things not working out the way they should for me"? You have tried several things and none of them seem to be going your way. And when you look around you, you see people rolling out drums for having achieved what you wish to achieve. And you feel diminished the more. You feel, what a he'll is this? And you will say to yourself, life sucks. If you have felt that way before, let it be known to you that you are not alone. Lots of people out there have also found themselves struggle with a similar heart wrenching thoughts.
Now, the truth is that what makes you feel that "nobodyness" in you is the "somebodyness" which exist and is still alive in you. If there is no sense of "somebodyness" in you, you will not feel like a nobody if things don't work out your way.
Some people don't get things done and they are not bothered. There are some people that are not producing result, yet they they don't give a damn.
"Naturally, the case is worse for those who do not know and they don't know that they don't know". It is the same for those who don't know and they don't bother that they don't know.
Now, there are two ways to this;there are those who are not getting things done and are not bothered. This set of people are not bothered because they feel that they are already lost in life. To this set of people, nothing matters. They are hopeless and they don't intend to do any thing about it. That is on one hand.
Now, there are two ways to this;there are those who are not getting things done and are not bothered. This set of people are not bothered because they feel that they are already lost in life. To this set of people, nothing matters. They are hopeless and they don't intend to do any thing about it. That is on one hand.
Then on the other hand, there is yet this other set of people who don't bother when things don't go their way. For this set of people, they don't bother, and this is not because they are hopeless or that they do not care. This set of people don't bother or look down on themselves because they understand the vicissitudes of life. This group of informed souls is aware that failure is not final but just a feedback. You find out that though this set of people failed to get things done as expected, they will not give up or resort to looking down on themselves. The will not begrudge themselves because they know that he who fail today will succeed tomorrow.
May be in your case, you are not producing the result you expect and you are not okay with it. This situation doesn't go down well with you because you want or you expect that you can do better or even the best. So, what this implies is that you are not worthless. And the reason why you are not worthless is because you don't like the outcome of your efforts.
You don't like the fact that you are not producing the kind of result that you want and you wish that it is different. Therefore, it doesn't warrant you looking down on yourself. What the situation warrant is dusting yourself and start looking out for opportunity to Wright the wrong. Re-strategize. Once you are convinced that the object of your target is worth it, you don't change your focus, instead you change the methodology.
You don't like the fact that you are not producing the kind of result that you want and you wish that it is different. Therefore, it doesn't warrant you looking down on yourself. What the situation warrant is dusting yourself and start looking out for opportunity to Wright the wrong. Re-strategize. Once you are convinced that the object of your target is worth it, you don't change your focus, instead you change the methodology.
The fact is that when you look down on yourself, you will see yourself as an empty vessel. You will begin to under value yourself. And when you feel that you have little or no value, you will automatically lose motivation and as a result become incapacitated to move on. And that is tilting towards more experiences that will strengthen your negative perception of yourself.
Now, what are those experiences that have the potential to make you look down on yourself?
Now, what are those experiences that have the potential to make you look down on yourself?
Sometimes you look down on yourself because of how others treat or have treated you.
When some people around you such as your spouse, your colleagues, your acquaintances and sometimes strangers treat you with disdain. Talk to you disrespectfully, you may be forced to look down on yourself. You may be forced to start thinking that something is wrong with you as a person which in most cases is not true. Although sometimes, your own disposition or demeanor may be responsible for how others treat you, however, in the majority of cases, it may not be a reaction to your action but a transfer of aggression or an outright show of ill manners by a person towards you.
In most cases you are not responsible for the ill treatment meted out to you. Sometimes, it is someone who has inferiority complex or a person who has emptiness in him or her that is trying to transfer it into you. So, you don't have to look down on yourself. Remember, your self worth is indestructible. Below is a quote I saw somewhere. I guess you may like it. It says,
"You are going to meet a lot of mean and disrespectful people in your life. Don't let them hurt you. Don't let their bitter and evil words break the surface of your skin. Keep your dignity, remain true to yourself, be the better person. They need help. It's not up to you to fix them or put up with them. Just smile and walk away".
For me, I view such negative actions toward me as a normal break which can come from anyone and targeted to anyone and it can only affect me if I allow it. Sometimes I tell people not to own certain derogatory remarks made at them. Don't take it as an attack premeditatively designed for you. You never can tell. May be it is straying comment looking for a person who is receptive to it. And even in some cases when the comment is meant or designed for you, it a wise decision to shake it off you and move on instead of looking down on yourself.
Another factor that can make you to look down on yourself is when you expect much from people and they fell short of your expectation of them.
All of us are human beings and it is a fact that no human is an island. No individual lives in a complete isolation. Which means that in one way or the other we interact with one another. And as a result of this inevitable coexistence among everyone of us, either by omission or commission, willingly or unwillingly, we tend to engage in acts that may lead us to us expect certain things either tangible or intangible from people who are in our contact.
Again, we know that everyone of us is a bundle of imperfection. And this makes us susceptible to disappointing others(falling short of other peoples' expection). And others falling short of our own expectations too.
Now, in order to shield yourself from disappointment from people which may lead you to looking down on yourself, you must bear it mind just like we just read that everyone of us is an imperfect being and are prone to disappointing others. The button line is, don't expect much from people in spite of whom the person may be to you. However, even when you hinge your expectation on someone which you must, it will be a wise decision to be prepared for the shock that may ensue as a result of "unmet expectation" from people. So, having pre girded yourself with such a shock absorbing mindset, it will be easy for you to experience disappointment or "unmet" expectations without causing you to look down on yourself.
Another factor, that can make one look down on oneself is the result of medical examinations. Some time ago, I was opportuned to meet someone whose self perception deteriorated within a twinkle of an eye. This was a guy who prior to the the time he received the result of a medical investigation, oozed out enthusiasm. He was a vibrant personage. A very sociable fellow. However, all these attribute got lost by the time he got the result of a medical examination. His sudden withdrawal from his social circle and the subsequent slump into a depressive mood made people to ask what the issue was with him. It was later discovered that he was diagnosed of a rare medical condition.
As a result, this one time man of courage, began to look down on himself. This was a person who has always known how to get things done. But as days went by, his self confidence continued to ebb.
Now, this could have happened to anyone. And for me, it would be unfair to conclude that his sudden change in perception of himself was uncalled for.
What I would say is that in such situations, we should understand that being diagnosed of a terminal illness is not the termination of one's life.
I remember a story told by Steve Jobs of Apple on his health problems. In year 2005, in a speech he presented during a graduation ceremony in Stanford university, he told a story about him being diagnosed of a rare type of prostate cancer which was confirmed by the doctor as inoperable. And due to the rarity of the said cancer, he was adviced by his doctor to put his house in order in preparation for a journey of no return. He said that the diagnoses created panic in his family. He felt bad, however, he went for another diagnoses which it's result stated that the cancer can be operated and remove surgically. So, he went for the operation, and it was successful. And after the operation, he lived many more years.
In the said speech, he said something that should encourage anyone who may be or may have found him or herself in such a situation. He said that "death should not be feared because it is a debt which everyone must pay". Rather we should be concerned about what we are here to do on earth. Even at the face of the diagnose, he continued to work as the CEO of Apple. He focused more on living a lasting and impressive legacy behind than focusing on the fear of death.
So, don't allow unfavourable results of medical examination make you to look down on yourself.
My own humble opinion is that instead of slumping into despondency, you should find more ways of engaging yourself in things that can benefit humanity starting from the people around you. Also, try and pursue your dreams if you have any with the last drop of your blood. Remember, the truth is that you are more powerful than you think.so don't look down on yourself.
When some people around you such as your spouse, your colleagues, your acquaintances and sometimes strangers treat you with disdain. Talk to you disrespectfully, you may be forced to look down on yourself. You may be forced to start thinking that something is wrong with you as a person which in most cases is not true. Although sometimes, your own disposition or demeanor may be responsible for how others treat you, however, in the majority of cases, it may not be a reaction to your action but a transfer of aggression or an outright show of ill manners by a person towards you.
In most cases you are not responsible for the ill treatment meted out to you. Sometimes, it is someone who has inferiority complex or a person who has emptiness in him or her that is trying to transfer it into you. So, you don't have to look down on yourself. Remember, your self worth is indestructible. Below is a quote I saw somewhere. I guess you may like it. It says,
"You are going to meet a lot of mean and disrespectful people in your life. Don't let them hurt you. Don't let their bitter and evil words break the surface of your skin. Keep your dignity, remain true to yourself, be the better person. They need help. It's not up to you to fix them or put up with them. Just smile and walk away".
Another factor that can make you to look down on yourself is when you expect much from people and they fell short of your expectation of them.
All of us are human beings and it is a fact that no human is an island. No individual lives in a complete isolation. Which means that in one way or the other we interact with one another. And as a result of this inevitable coexistence among everyone of us, either by omission or commission, willingly or unwillingly, we tend to engage in acts that may lead us to us expect certain things either tangible or intangible from people who are in our contact.
Again, we know that everyone of us is a bundle of imperfection. And this makes us susceptible to disappointing others(falling short of other peoples' expection). And others falling short of our own expectations too.
Now, in order to shield yourself from disappointment from people which may lead you to looking down on yourself, you must bear it mind just like we just read that everyone of us is an imperfect being and are prone to disappointing others. The button line is, don't expect much from people in spite of whom the person may be to you. However, even when you hinge your expectation on someone which you must, it will be a wise decision to be prepared for the shock that may ensue as a result of "unmet expectation" from people. So, having pre girded yourself with such a shock absorbing mindset, it will be easy for you to experience disappointment or "unmet" expectations without causing you to look down on yourself.
Another factor, that can make one look down on oneself is the result of medical examinations. Some time ago, I was opportuned to meet someone whose self perception deteriorated within a twinkle of an eye. This was a guy who prior to the the time he received the result of a medical investigation, oozed out enthusiasm. He was a vibrant personage. A very sociable fellow. However, all these attribute got lost by the time he got the result of a medical examination. His sudden withdrawal from his social circle and the subsequent slump into a depressive mood made people to ask what the issue was with him. It was later discovered that he was diagnosed of a rare medical condition.
As a result, this one time man of courage, began to look down on himself. This was a person who has always known how to get things done. But as days went by, his self confidence continued to ebb.
Now, this could have happened to anyone. And for me, it would be unfair to conclude that his sudden change in perception of himself was uncalled for.
What I would say is that in such situations, we should understand that being diagnosed of a terminal illness is not the termination of one's life.
I remember a story told by Steve Jobs of Apple on his health problems. In year 2005, in a speech he presented during a graduation ceremony in Stanford university, he told a story about him being diagnosed of a rare type of prostate cancer which was confirmed by the doctor as inoperable. And due to the rarity of the said cancer, he was adviced by his doctor to put his house in order in preparation for a journey of no return. He said that the diagnoses created panic in his family. He felt bad, however, he went for another diagnoses which it's result stated that the cancer can be operated and remove surgically. So, he went for the operation, and it was successful. And after the operation, he lived many more years.
In the said speech, he said something that should encourage anyone who may be or may have found him or herself in such a situation. He said that "death should not be feared because it is a debt which everyone must pay". Rather we should be concerned about what we are here to do on earth. Even at the face of the diagnose, he continued to work as the CEO of Apple. He focused more on living a lasting and impressive legacy behind than focusing on the fear of death.
So, don't allow unfavourable results of medical examination make you to look down on yourself.
My own humble opinion is that instead of slumping into despondency, you should find more ways of engaging yourself in things that can benefit humanity starting from the people around you. Also, try and pursue your dreams if you have any with the last drop of your blood. Remember, the truth is that you are more powerful than you think.so don't look down on yourself.
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